An estrangement case study in being told — and refusing to hear

I have been estranged from my family for almost a decade.  During that time, many life-altering decisions have been made that have shaped the person I presently am, and the life I have chosen to lead. One of the biggest events that has happened during my period of estrangement is that I now have children.

I have been completely estranged from my entire family for many years, and I’m getting more comfortable sharing that with closer friends, colleagues, and even strangers.  More often than not, it is someone I am meeting for the first time who asks questions about my family in an attempt at polite conversation.

“I miss my mom.”  I’ve noticed that this sentence makes an appearance in my thoughts more than I care to admit.  Sometimes it’s not surprising, like when I’m having a difficult day and my nerves and patience are worn thin.  I start craving that support, understanding, validation, and love that only a mother can provide.

This month, the advice columnist answers a question about housing, finances and sibling estrangement.

In recognition of July 18 "Perfect Family Day" this month's educational series will explore this topic.